Ever since I became a mother to Matilda, I must admit, most of my time has been dedicated to looking after her and taking care of her. Somehow, along the way, I became too preoccupied that I forgot to take care of Joey’s needs, and myself, included. – (Dedicating a special post for this!)
To be a full-time mom can be exhausting, most especially if you are doing it all by yourself. I am just glad and blessed that we have a reliable house-help to assist me, in making sure that our home is well taken care of.
One Sunday service though, the Pastor asked a very important question, that goes something like, “How much effort are you giving into what God has called you to do?”. This got me thinking, well, I do give my all to Matilda as her mom.. But then.. Oops! I forgot, I am a wife too, and that should be first! And there it was, right on my face. Flashbacks of days when Joey needed a particular attire for work which hadn’t been in the cabinet yet, shoes that should have been cleaned and polished, food or materials that he should have brought with him, but have forgotten, and the list just goes on and on and on. I felt so bad. Yes, I am 100% as a mother, but I am not even close to 50% as a wife.
I knew then, I had to do something. I had to re-evaluate myself on how I manage my time with Joey, his needs, Matilda, and the home. At first, I had thoughts like, well Joey must understand, Matilda is still very young, her needs are much more important than his. Then again, are they really? Sure, there are times that yes, that reason applies, but more often than not, with God’s grace and proper time management, I should be able to balance all of it.
I knew clearly that It has to start with something, and it has to start with me. It is hard, really, but definitely not impossible. I just want to be able to do all those things I was personally doing back when Matilda wasn’t born yet. To consistently serve him and be at my 100%, as a wife to him, all over again. Plus, I haven’t been a good home manager lately, most especially over the holidays when our schedules were really crazy. I have got to work on improving in that area too. So, the real question is, how do I do it? Where do I begin? First of all, I have already prayed and surrendered this to God, knowing in my heart that I cannot do this on my own. And then, I just started giving a little more effort into the things I have to do, looking after his interests more than my own. The result of all that, is up to God.
I am happy that somehow I have seen major improvements in the home. I have been more responsible in making sure everything is in order. The part I have to work on more now is, being able to address Joey’s needs before he leaves for work. He leaves really early, and I am honestly not a morning person unlike him. Another thing is, Matilda still wakes up in the middle of the night, at least twice, to breastfeed. Due to this, there are times I have trouble going back to sleep. But I am working on it, as promised. Hoping I’ll make some major adjustments with my sleeping habits soon, to make way for better changes. I just pray that Joey notices this too! 🙂
If you are a wife, this is something for you to think about, have you been at your BEST as a wife to your husband? For in any marriage, any husband would expect to be served by his wife without any excuses. Have you been that kind of wife lately, or ever? Read the following verses below to find out more about the characteristics of a noble wife, as stated in the Word of God. I’m surely nowhere close to all these, believe me, but with God’s grace, I know he will see me through! Because for me, it would be such a privilege if my Lord God, and my husband will consider me anywhere near a wife of noble character.
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
(Proverbs 31:10-31 NIV)